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Al areas -- career, relationships, emotional intelligence, transition, wellness, stress.

 & Education

What we missed as children, we must give to ourselves as adults.  We must rediscover what we loved to do, what we're good at, and what makes us feel good.  (Strengths/
Assessment/ Coaching

And most of all, in our learning, we must focus on exploration and deep understanding.

Howard Gardner Dr. Howard Gardner, re: theory of multiple intelligences:

"Unless individuals take an active role in what they are studying ... the ideas just disappear."

See my Top Tens on his Multiple Intelligences.  http://www.topten.org/public/BQ/BQ71.html
and BQ72-78 inclusive

These are absolutely wonderful to know about yourself, and for your children and/or grand-children.  


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Emotional Intelligence (EQ) courses and coaching to enrich your life.   

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Do you know someone who just seems to be getting more out of life than you are?

Chances are they have a high EQ!

It's almost like evolving to the next level ... you know, it's never what's out there, it's what in you!

Come learn more about emotional intelligence with me.

Just what is "EQ" ?

EQ is our lives, because we are our feelings.  Emotional intelligence is how we get along with others, motivate ourselves and handle our emotions.

"The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships."


Life is a dance ...

Did anyone ever teach you the steps?

For Internet resources about emotional intelligence (EQ), please scroll to bottom.



Here's my grand-daughter, who dressed herself for preschool.

Okay, when I sat down and showed her the way her feet curve, and the way her shoes curve, and how to look for that, then she knew what to do!

Typically she replied, "I knew that!"

Typically you'll say, "Oh, I see now."

EQ can't be learned in a quick seminar, one workshop, or a single coaching session. Facts about EQ can, however, be learned that way!  

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  • Go over assessment results with me and choose goals and objectives

  • Or maybe you just know something you want to work on or understand better!

  • Take my EQ course and selected Mini-courses

  • Coaching and feedback on skill 

  • Re-assessment

  • Enjoy a richer, fuller life

If you want information on EQ, a few coaching sessions will do, or make use of the resources and links on this feature-rich site!


Emotional intelligence can be learned, and can be learned over our entire lifetimes.  It is best learned through a combination of reading, studying, coaching, and by putting the skills into practice on a daily basis. 

To increase your EQ skills, take the EQ Course, sign up for some coaching,  and work on one new skill at a time.  Taking an assessment will help you pinpoint which emotional intelligence competencies you want to focus on. 

The EQ Mini-Courses will give you tips on how to improve a specific EQ competency one-day-at-a-time.



Have you learned it all you can?

          "Students and teachers alike are discovering that digital technologies add a 
           new--and much needed--dimension to the teaching and learning of emotional
           intelligence.  Just as in the teaching of core subjects, the flexibility of new
           digital tools provides students with an avenue for creativity and exploration in 
           the area of social and emotional learning.  These tools enable students to
           explore issues at their own pace--and in whatever learning style [allows them
           to learn best]."
                                       Edutopia, the George Lucas Educational Foundation
"Using Digital Technology to Enhance Emotional Intelligence," by Robert Furger


The book that popularized the concept.  Click on the book to order.

"Emotional Intelligence," 
by Daniel Goleman


IQ v. EQ

The study of emotional intelligence began because researchers were interested in exploring why some people with really high IQs did do poorly at work and at home.

At the same time, we all know people of average smarts who are soaring--both professionally and personally.  

They wondered what it was that makes some people's lives run so smoothly.

We've really been putting too much emphasis on IQ when there's so much more to our lives than memorizing and calculating!


I periodically give group teleclasses on EQ.  If you'd like to be advised of when the next one will be. EMAIL ME with your request.  Or schedule your own Laser  Session.


I've found most of my clients and students are very "quick."  We can cover a lot of ground in a personal one-to-one phone session, and you won't have to listen to someone else's question, or hear stuff you aren't interested in.

LASER SESSIONS on EQ.  $25.00 per phone call or email.  Get the general scoop, what the buzz is all about, answers to specific questions, clarification on certain issues, how the assessments work and where to find them, RESOURCES.  Enough information to bring this into your coaching, training, managing with confidence..  

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Everyone's curious about EQ.  Then EMAIL ME to set up a time for talk.  


Do you know the steps to the office dance?


Now we're looking at EQ and leadership ("Ain't nobody happy if Mama ain't happy.")

Click on the book to order:

Goleman's latest, "Primal Leadership"

Q:  Do you think emotions belong in the workplace?
A:  It doesn't matter, they're there.

"Business leaders who maintain that emotions are best kept out of the work environment do so at their organization's peril," says Goleman. In this book, he and his coauthors present the case for cultivating emotionally intelligent leaders. 

Since the actions of the leader apparently account for up to 70% of employees' perception of the climate of their organization, Goleman and his team emphasize the importance of developing what they call "resonant leadership." 

Sources:  book jackets


Want to raise the bottom line?  Want to retain your best employees?  Bring in the EQ!

It's been a long time coming, to even TALK about emotions in the work place.  But here we are, thank heavens.  I purposely keep this website more "homey" than "professional," because I don't leave "me" at home when I "go to work."  DO YOU?  

I work a lot with Buckingham and Clifton's Strengths, and when I printed their list of things you should be able to answer "yes" to at work, one of them is:  Do you have a best friend at work? 

I got lots of [e]cards and [e]letters about that one, folks.  Does it help you work better to have a best friend at work?  Let me know what you think.  

The EMOTIONAL TONE at work is CRUCIAL to the employees' productivity.


EQ.org  http://www.eq.org

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"A recent Institute research study published in the Journal of Advancement of Medicine shows that even a 5 minute episode of recalling an angry experience can suppress the immune system for as much as 6 hours.  The converse is also true.  Attitudes like appreciation, care, and compassion significantly boost immune system strength.  The more our system is balanced, the more intuitive insight we're capable of.--intuition that can anticipate problems before they turn ugly."  "Neutralizing Workplace Stress," by Bruce Cryer


What the researches were after is that quality we all recognize as " a good personality," or "easy to work with," or "common sense," or "the ability to makes things go well."  People who've just got a good thing going on.  Their lives seem to work.

Research broke this "way of being" down into behaviors and gave them names.  This made it all more comprehensible, and also, then, it could be taught!

And they gave it a name:  "emotional intelligence."

Different schools use different terminology, but here are some of them:

  • Resilience
  • Optimism
  • Compassion
  • Empathy
  • Flexibility
  • Fluency
  • Creativity
  • Outlook
  • Interpersonal skills
  • Intrapersonal skills
  • Emotional expressive
  • Reading others' emotions

Self-awareness is the cornerstone of emotional intelligence.  Without it there can be no emotional intelligence.

Optimism is the facilitator of emotional intelligence.  Like the yeast in the bread, or the grease on the machine, it makes the other things happen.  

These can roughly be grouped into

  • Self-mastery skills (self-control, initiative)
  • Relationship skills (developing other, conflict management, bonding)

And then, EQ went into the work world!

Click on the book to order

      "Working with Emotional Intelligence," 
      by Daniel Goleman

"Analyses done by dozens of experts in 500 corporations, government agencies, and nonprofit organizations worldwide conclude that emotional intelligence is the barometer of excellence in virtually any job."  (Source:  book cover) 


How are you doing at the Romance Dance?

Did you give her ...

Or is she impossible to please???

  • Does she know how to ask?

  • Do you know how to listen?

  • Can you read each other's nonverbal signals?

  • Do you trust each other enough to ask, accept, decline, and receive?

  • Do you like to please each other?

  • Did she say "thank you"?

These are EQ skills.  Learn more about them and improve your relationships.


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The level of our emotional intelligence definitely impacts our health--both physical and mental.