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CHILD'S EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
I'm often asked how to develop your child's emotional intelligence or your baby's EQ, and so I've written an eBook, "How to Develop Your Child's Emotional Intelligence: A Practical How-to Guide." In it you'll find lots of suggestions, including that you join in with your child emotionally, engaging in their play.
If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense
of wonder, he needs the
Emotional intelligence is all about this joy, excitement and mystery ~ to be shared. The rest, as someone famous said, "is just details."
Can your child tell how other people are feeling?
Children of the World Sewing Cards
The "I'm Learning EQ©" t-shirt, our product. Others will ask about it and initiate conversation, which is what EQ is all about. Listen to your child answer, "What's EQ" and see how he's doing. EMAIL ME.
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Children have a natural affinity for music. It's been with us (as humans) from the beginning of time, and requires no verbal skills whatsoever. In fact, it expresses what words cannot. Join Club Vivo Per Lei / I Live for Music and learn more about music, so you can share it with your child. It's Free.
Every one of us should become proficient in at least one other language. Get started early. If you live in a multicultural area, try and find a native speaker who tutors children. They have these books for several languages, not just Russian.
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Emotional Intelligence Books
The level of the parent's emotional intelligence heavily influences the degree of emotional intelligence the child is able to develop. You can't NOT teach emotional intelligence, because it's how you interact.
BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOUR CHILD IS DEVELOP YOUR OWN EMOTIONAL
YOUR CHILDREN GENTLY, PLEASE
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE TEST
What should Britta's Mom do?
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE TEST
OF THE MONTH: ARE
YOU MODELING GOOD EQ SKILLS FOR YOUR CHILDREN?
Emotional Intelligence Articles:
"Joy and Loss: The Emotional Lives of Gifted Children," by Joshua Freedman, Ph.D. and Anabel Jensen, Ph.D.
THE MARSHMALLOW TEST
The Marshmallow test is mentioned in "Emotional Intelligence," by Goleman. How a child performs on this test at the age of 4 is a better predictor of his or her future success in life than his or her IQ.
What researchers do is leave the child along in a room with a marshmallow, telling them they can either eat the marshmallow immediately, or, if they can wait till the man returns, they can have 5 marshmallows.
What this is testing is "impulse control" and the ability to "delay gratification." It's an example of "frustration tolerance." Much of what we want later on in life requires resisting the immediate impulse, and also being able to "delay gratification", i.e., when in college, you might have preferred to be off surfing in Hawaii, but, since you valued what a college education would do for you, you stuck with it. And it meant giving up some things you might have preferred doing at the time!
Some of the children can't resist, and take the marshmallow immediately or eventually. Others last it out, and what do they do? Count their fingers and toes ... get up and look out the window ... find a book in the room and read it ... look up at the ceiling ... they are very clever!
Somewhere they developed this skill ... could it have been their parents?
My mom used to tell me "When you're angry, stop and count to ten." She was teaching me to stop and think before I spoke or took action. I think she got it from Abraham Lincoln's famous quote. This is a tried-and-true way to emotional intelligence ... stopping to think before you act or react.
Some children are naturally more impulsive than others ... and all can learn ways to manage impulsivity. It's an EI skill!
Robert Kegan, Ph.D., Harvard University considers it essential that individuality and connection to community be interwoven in the evolution of personal maturity.
Baby Gifts & Learning Tools
to Raise a Self-Disciplined, Responsible, Socially Skilled Child
Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers: Guiding the Way for Compassionate,
Committed, Courageous Adults," Maurice Elias, Ph.D.
TIP FOR INCREASING YOUR CHILD'S EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
WHAT DOES AN INNATE STRENGTH LOOK LIKE?
Sam ... this is Sam at about 8 months old. He would play endlessly with a pot out on the back patio, moving it this way and that, turning it, seeing what it could do. And it was a good toy for him for months! He didn't need a lot of variety of new things, or things that clanged or made noise. He was much more interested in seeing what the pan would do when he did this or that to it. Focus was one of the strengths. And, yes, he grew up to be interested in theoretical Physics -- interested in seeing what forces could be brought to bear on what objects and what transpired, and also taking a lot of analytical focus. Analytical was one of his strengths. He was analyzing what the pot could and couldn't do.
Look at his solid position, physically, too. Feet very firmly planted. His Mom said he was "opinionated" -- made his wishes known quite clearly, and also when he was displeased. Most of the time he was busy focused on something.
When he entered nursery school at age 3, the teachers called him "Mr. President." He had a sort of presence which showed up early ... as innate strengths do. This would be the strength of Command. These people prefer to be in charge of things, and have the sort of physical presence that makes people naturally turn to them for leadership.
Now look at this child --
Tamar is equally intent, and has Focus but here interests are more Intellection and Learner. She wasn't so interested in manipulating objects as in reading about things. She shows Deliberativeness. She was cautious about new things, wary, always looking for pitfalls.
What innate talents does your child show? Are you encouraging them? Some of the names of the strengths (StrengthsFinder™ Profile) are: Connectedness, Relator, Harmony, Empathy, Achiever and Activator.